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Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from millennium. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with evils, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, funds, age difference, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the intention of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman looking for dating married men.

Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking affairs. I am conserned mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.

Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the mechanism?

Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your spouse or anybody else? You will need to reduce the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage undamaged.

Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The major reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.